Our Innate Freedom: “The key to our prison” part 6
To review from the top: All the stuff in our lives (outcomes & results) are in correlation with our actions. Every action we have ever taken, including now, is in correlation with the way our world occurs for us (occurring view). The way the world shows up for us is not given by the world but rather how I see the world (perspective, point of view etc..).
In this post we will begin to zoom in on what has most people (in a universe of continual improvisational flux and change) walking around in a perpetual state of mental and emotional fixation & constipation? What is the key to our freedom here?
What’s interesting to me is this: think about the people you know really well – your parents, your brothers and sisters, don’t you already know who they are going to vote for? There’s certain things you might not even try to talk with your parents about because already know in advance what they are going to say in response.
What is it that you know about them that has you able to know their consistent way of seeing? What do you know about them that has you know how certain situations or circumstances will occur for them, which will then have them take the actions they take or don’t take and get what they do and/or don’t have?
I’ll give you a hint. Comedians are the best at picking this up. What do comedians do? The get this something about a person (like George Bush. They get this thing about George Bush. What is comedy? You take George Bush and put him in a new context – say, with a bunch of dolphins. That’s what makes it funny, the context changes. Comic relief, what is that? What are you relieved of?
You’re relieved from your fixed point of view. That is what humor is, and that is why it is so relieving. It exposes the fallacy of the way we think. Comedians have us see the limits of our ‘normal’ constructed view – they have us see the box from a different perspective. When we have this experience, we laugh, and it feels like a release because we are freed from our constructed, familiar, occurring view. We get to see that we constructed the prison and that the key is in our own hand – yet we complain about being in prison…that’s what makes it funny.
What is the thing comedians get? What is the context that has our occurring view be fixed or consistent? What do you get about people?
Guy: What am I like? Describe me.
Shana: Quirky, brilliant, use a lot of humor, caring…
Guy: What are you describing?
Shana: Qualities of your behaviors.
Guy: A video camera can take pictures of my behaviors – so it’s not just my behaviors your describing…
Shana: Your way of being?
Guy: YES! I have a way of being. Your parents, sister, and brother – all have a way of being.
Shana: Yes, and I pick that up through your body language, tone, the words you use…
Guy: Exactly. People have a way of being. When I say, “I really know you.” What do we know exactly? Way of being.
And Shana described it well, way of being has a whole gestalt – there’s a whole Guy. Quirky, funny, caring – you can’t really describe it exactly but there’s a whole.
Lets try to make it more distinct. Lets break it up into three parts and see what happens.
Guy: First, we will look at the mental linguistic sphere. In this one sphere, based on how I am, what do you think the fundamental narrative is that underlies everything I do?
Shana: For you, life is fascinating – it’s endlessly discoverable and paradoxical.
Guy: Ok, got it. Now, lets say that’s some sort of compensation on my part – that’s on top of something. What could be a possible narrative running underneath that?
Shana: Something about being bored? Or maybe unseen…
Guy: Right, so something about being bored or unseen such that I have to make sure it’s exciting. Right? Could be.
Shana: Exciting or ever changing. That makes me think, if something is ever-changing for you then you see it as alive or maybe even safer in some way…
Guy: Check it out. She is starting to get me. Shana just crawled inside of me, inside my shoes and she started to get me. She is starting to make sense out of my experience, out of my behavior. Basically, that is the linguistic sphere, our deep, core, and fundamental narratives.
In that sphere, anything we can say about anything is either an ‘I’, a ‘we/they’ or an ‘it.’ If we have narratives, our narratives are always going to be inclusive of those familiar categories. Whenever we say ‘I’, we infer another familiar version of (we/they), or an ‘it’.
Here’s another way to say the same thing: a way of being is another way of describing the practicing of your identity. In fact, you could call your way of being your identity.
And, when you start to consider your identity, that’s really about the realm of language – it’s about narratives. Its arguable, but I also think that there is a much deeper identity that isn’t based on that, but that’s another topic.
Mostly though, people only really talk about their results and their outcomes, and this is a pretty unconscious act for most people. They are not conscious that they are the source off how their experience with what is; they are the source of how life occurs. Very few people are conscious of that level of action. Very few people are aware that how they see is the source of how the world shows up for them.
***PART 7 COMING SOON***