I am someone who has no idea how the fuck to answer the question “Who am I?” Yet, I seem to be someone who has dedicated his life to radically elucidating this very question.
I am someone who is very difficult to describe. Even my closest friends who know me inside and out have a hell of a time “summing me up”.
I like this about myself. What this tells me is I am truly embodying and living my life at the level of depth that I can’t help but choose.
I am someone who is fortunate enough to realize that it really doesn’t matter who I am to myself. The real question is: “Who am I to you?”
I am someone who truly gives a shit about you. I am someone who will truly see who you are in a way that perhaps no one ever has in your entire life.
I am someone who can sit next to a stranger and have a conversation with them such that the stranger walks away living inside a completely different world.
And I am someone who pays attention in such a way that will allow you and I to see and hear those things which have always been present yet have never occurred to you.
I am someone who truly does not, nor ever has, taken life for granted. I wake up in the morning with an insatiable craving and thirst to discover the source of life’s novelty.
Also about me…
I was born in Chicago, Illinois.
Both my parents were alcoholics and insane.
As a child I completely withdrew from the world and into my imagination.
I was shipped from school to school with major learning disabilities and could not learn how to read until fifth grade.
I had an amazing grandfather. Looking back, he was the one safe place in the universe for me. While my schools, my parents and everyone else around me was trying to figure out what was wrong with me, my grandfather loved and adored everything I was. He would pick me up from school and all he cared about was where my curiosity and imagination wanted to take me.
When I was 12 I moved away from my grandparents to Cottonwood Arizona and had the experience of the ground being pulled out from under my feet. I consider this the time I “woke up my will”.
In order to deal with my inner world, which was spinning out of control in total isolation at 12 years old, I began lifting weights and running 5 miles every day, and I began to ferociously read self-help books, spiritual and philosophy books.
By the time I was in eighth grade I had gone from a withdrawn chubby boy to, at 14 years old, bench pressing over 200 pounds. I was the top athlete in multiple sports and became known as the guy you could have deep talks with.
Outside of school all my friends were at least 20 years older than me. I would engage deeply in personal and philosophical inquiries. I am grateful to have had a number of wise older men take me under their wing and support the burning embers of curiosity deep within me.
After graduating high school I spent a year training to be a deep-tissue massage therapist in Tucson Arizona. I grew a thriving business as a body worker and personal fitness trainer.
In 1992 I moved to San Francisco to go to the San Francisco Art Institute where I got my BFA.
In 1995 I co-discovered a relational practice now widely known as “Circling”. I co-created the Bay Area Men’s Circle which is still thriving today.
I have never been formally trained in transformational work. Rather, I’ve found myself creating transformational methodologies to train people in.
In 1996 I co-founded The Arete Center for Excellence.
Between 1997 and 2000 I co-created and led year-long transformational leadership trainings, teaching people to lead the Arete Experience workshops.
I founded and created a year-long coaching and Circling training called TCLT.
Since 2012, I have led what may be the longest running drop-in Circling group to date, every Monday night in Berkeley for the past 4 years.
I have led over 4000 circles.
I am also a sculptor, painter, poet and philosopher.
People call me Guy.